In my travels around the web, I come across some pretty interesting articles.
This one on the Huffington Post wasn’t any different.
It’s titled: 10 ways to know you’re ready for a relationship.And being the curious little thing I clicked the link to read the article. Because you know, there’s never enough self-improvement available for one and who knows, I might learn something new.
Their first paragraph actually caught me. Because it’s something I believe sets a great foundation for your own relationship foundation. And that’s being ready for a relationship.
What does ready mean though?
For me, it means that I’m at a place in my life where I don’t need a relationship, I’m happy, I’m healthy and I’m enjoying my life. It means that I’ve got a balance worked out and that whether I share my journey or not, I’ll be ok and I know I’m ok.
Here’s the 10 points that the article makes:
- Be as good as you can, as often as you can.
- You’ll put someone else’s interests ahead of your own
- You understand the importance of communication
- You’ve got some semblance of a path in life
- You can let the little things slide
- You’re ready to accept someone as they are
- You don’t look for someone to complete you
- You are happy being single
- Your ex is no longer a factor
- You are ready to blend your life into someone else’s.
So then I sat there and thought about it. And thought some more.
And came to the conclusion that I’ve pretty much been applying these things to relationships for a while. Yet they’ve still disintegrated.
Don’t get me wrong, I think these 10 things are solid and definitely needed to make sure you’re ready for a relationship.
I think having a healthy and balanced relationship should be strived for. Co-dependency gives me shivers up the spine and makes me run hard and fast for the hills. However, that doesn’t mean that I don’t want to spend time with my partner. It just means that I like having my time alone. To watch things, to make things, to read things, to do things.
For someone who would happily become agoraphobic I have a very active social life.
It’s not that I want to go out, I actually make myself leave the house because I know once I’m there I’ll have a good time. And if I’m not I usually come back home again. But at least I gave it a shot.
I think it’s important that we push our partners to have their own interests. Things that make them happy, keeps them active, gets them socialising… As much as I know I love being at home in my pj’s procrastinating, I also love my friends and spending time with them doing things that always end up in an adventure.
I think keeping up your social life, your home life and your other lives are pretty important outside and inside a relationship.
Plus I think there’s a definite air of confidence that comes with knowing yourself, being happy in yourself and pushing yourself to improve.
And that’s sexy.