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Rope, the best in bondage ever.

So some of you might or might not be aware that I have a some love affair going down with rope.

I have my furoshiki full of rope, purple and natural coloured jute. It’s oiled, twisted, wicked and de-fluffed on a regular occasion.

Gum boots and rope

What’s the draw? I think it’s because I love love love being tied up by someone who loves to tie. The energy, the give and take, the pain… These are all the things that can be given with rope and then some. It’s really rather zen sometimes. There is something to be said about being hung by one leg in the air with nothing between you and the floor but rope and that constant pain and pulling. It’s just the right amount to take your breath away and yet at the same time ask for more.

So how easy was the transition from being a rope bunny to actually tying myself? Not very hard at all. It’s amazing how much you pick up in just over a year of being a rope bunny and how much you actually do know. So when I tied my first takate kote I was actually rather surprised that it was “just so”. So much so that every Hitchin’ Bitches (HB) that we hold, the less I think about how I need to tie and just tie the more it flows and the more I find that I can interact with the person I’m actually tying.

And this new tie I learnt, a different take on a takate kote, it goes something like this…

Means that I can now safely get someone with a bigger frame into a face down suspension, or even face up and there is no adverse pull on anything where there shouldn’t be! We were very excited and I’m going to try out a whole lot of stuff with this new harness when we hold our next session of HB this weekend!

And I guess the reason that I keep coming back to it and the reason why I love it so is that it’s an inexpensive way of being able to be sensual, sadistic and personal all at the same time. I find that a flogging or caning can become rather impersonal and there can be no flow between the people. Especially if you’re playing with someone you haven’t previously. Rope… well there’s no way of not touching the person. Being in their space. Feeling them, their breaths, their boobs… Also it can be just a bit of fun without any of the pain or connectivity. I found that when I’m tying new people I tend to keep it really academic so that I get to know them, how they react to my ropes, how they feel with certain things and just to make sure I know where they might want to go.

Which brings me to my other quandary. I barely every tie men. I blame my love of boobs. I also acknowledge that I don’t feel quite ok with tying men possibly because I’m in a relationship and find it all a bit awkward making that I’m getting in close and personal with a guy that isn’t my partner.

And lastly it brings me to the fact that I tie and suspend myself as well. Why? Well mainly because I find that there are no riggers that tend to approach you and ask if you would like to be tied in the Sydney scene (apart from my beautiful wifey that is) – whether that’s because I have a partner and they feel it interferes with the whole “d/s dynamic” that we don’t adhere to or if it’s just that they don’t want to tie me. And there’s something very satisfying getting yourself into the air with your own rope skills. Although I think the whole self tying and suspension thing is probably a post all on it’s own.

And lastly, I’m making it a point to break the whole rigger not asking anyone if they want to be tied thing and I’m going out of my way to ask people that I wouldn’t normally want to tie if they would like to be tied at HB.

Also a bit of shameless self promotion – if you are a female rigger or female and would like to know a bit more about rope, please come join us on the first Sunday of every month at Hitchin Bitches. Feel free to leave me a message and I can forward on our details. Or if you are on fetlife, please look our group up 🙂

Ps. I got tickets to Milla Reika’s Masterclasses during the Sydney Rope Festival – I can’t wait for this. And if you can’t either you should go and look us up. It’s going to be an intense few days!!

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